This study investigates self-forgiveness for real hurts committed against the partner in a romantic relationship (N=168 couples). Using a dyadic perspective, we evaluated whether offender self-forgiveness, conceived as a bi-dimensional construct distinct from self-excusing, is uniquely related to both own and partner relationship satisfaction. For both males and females, offending partners were more satisfied with their romantic relationship to the extent that they had more positive and less negative sentiment and thoughts towards themselves, whereas victimized partners were more satisfied with the relationship when the offending partner had less negative sentiment and thoughts (but not more positive ones) toward themselves. The implications of these findings for understanding self-forgiveness and its pro-relationship effects in romantic couples are discussed.
- couple relationship